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A 2nd Gospel Principle for Dealing with Differing Opinions

Posted on November 24, 2016 Written by Bill Tell Leave a Comment

opinionsI wonder if the tag line for the church in Rome might have been, “If you are prickly and critical, there is a place for you here.” Their reputation evidently reflected their membership; it was a church struggling with divisive opinions.

In my last posts we looked at the first set of disruptive opinions that unleashed reciprocal judgement and mutual rejection – the conflict between those who were free to eat anything and those who ate only vegetables (Romans 14:1-3). How did Paul restore the relationships? Not by proving one was right and the other wrong, but reminding them of the gospel, that God did not accept and welcome them based on their opinions. And so our love and acceptance of people with different opinions should reflect God’s acceptance of us. That’s the first principle.

Now a second disagreement was dividing church friends – were some days to be treated differently because they were of more value, or were all days the same (Romans 14:5). The believing Jews in the church no doubt made observing the special days of their tradition important. The Gentile believers in the church had no such traditions and no compulsion to observe them. So who was right?

Paul, by the Spirit of God, provides a surprising, and for some, a disturbing answer. Both could be acceptable (Romans 14:6 – “The one who observes the day, observes it in honor of the Lord…the one who abstains, abstains in honor of the Lord and gives thanks to God”). Paul eliminates tradition, opinions, and preferences as the basis for deciding what practice is right. Rather he takes them to the Lordship of Christ, “Christ died and lived again that he might be Lord…” (Romans 14:9). The issue is this, in my heart am I following and surrendered to the Lordship of Jesus in determining what I do?

Eugene Peterson in The Message captures it well, “That’s why Jesus died and then lived again: so that he could be our Master across the entire range of life and death, and free us from the petty opinions of each other.”

The Second Principle:  What made people with two different practices both acceptable? Commitment to following Jesus as Lord and Master. That’s what he wants – he wants us to be following him. And when we do and don’t follow ourselves, he will guide and lead us, mold us and shape us according to his unique and perfect plan for us…all with his perfect timing.  He will do that for me and I need to trust he is doing that with you.

Next week: A 3rd Gospel principle for dealing with differing opinions and practices.

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The Gospel Prequel to Five Guys and Vegetarians

Posted on November 17, 2016 Written by Bill Tell Leave a Comment

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In our last post, the guys ignored the vegetarian women traveling with them and stopped at Five Guys for dinner. What followed was an eruption of condemnation and judgement flying back and forth.  We then looked at how understanding the gospel didn’t just become the motivation for each party asking forgiveness, but how it actually eliminated any grounds for the condemnation and judgement in the first place. This same situation and solution played out in the Roman church (Romans 14:1-3).

But a Lingering Question Remains.

It is obvious that the gospel heals and repairs strained and broken relationships. It is a great after-the-fact solution. But…

How does the gospel get in front of the situation?

Could the gospel prevent the men from turning into Five Guys in the first place? Can the gospel guide and not just correct? Can it prevent people with differing opinions from fracturing into unfriendly camps? Absolutely. I will be playing this out in the next few blogs as we look at more differing opinions in Romans 14, opinions about valuing certain days above others and then conflicting views about alcohol.

For now, lets jump ahead to the summary conclusion in Romans 15:2 that puts the gospel at the front-side of our choices rather than putting it at the back-side dealing with the unfortunate consequences of our choices.  “Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up.” And why do we do that? Romans 14:15 says we do it because our brother is one “for whom Christ died.”  There it is again, the gospel.

The principle is this – not how can I enjoy my freedom, but what makes for the growth of my brother or sister in Christ?

Next week: What about some believers who value going to the world series more than church? Does the lordship of Christ give them that freedom?

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Vegetarians, Five Guys burgers, and the Gospel.

Posted on November 11, 2016 Written by Bill Tell 1 Comment

five-guysWhat does Five Guys, vegetarians and the gospel have to do with each other?  LOTS!  Here is a case scenario I use to bring them all together.

Three college men and three college women are traveling together to a weekend retreat. The three women are vegetarians, the men know it, but stop for dinner at Five Guys. Now there are bad attitudes and judgements flying back and forth and the six students come to you for your counsel on how to resolve the conflict. What advice would you give?

Here is a sampling of the answers I have received from different groups:

  • Go in separate cars.
  • Stop at Applebees – it has a broader menu.
  • Talk to the men about sensitivity.
  • Help them understand each other’s opinions.

Nice ideas but none of them turn to the gospel for a solution. The apostle Paul faced the same situation in the church at Rome. He wrote, “One person believes he may eat anything, while the weak person eats only vegetables” (Romans 14:2). The motivation for the dietary preference may be different, but the relational scuffle was no less intense. Romans 14:3 records that one group was despising and looking down at the other, while the other party was returning judgment and condemnation to the other. Hmmm – what a great witness to others about how followers of Jesus get along! Not.

How did Paul deal with the divisive opinions and resulting rejections of one another? He reminded them…and us…of the gospel, “for God has welcomed him” (Romans 14:3).

God’s acceptance of us did not depend on our do’s and don’t s. Or our opinions. Or any other of our behaviors. His acceptance and welcome of us as His friends was based on the work of Christ…and not on our behavior…even if it went beyond the gray area of opinions and was sinful. “but God shows his love for us in that while we were yet sinners Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8).

“If you confuse others by making a big issue over what they eat or don’t eat, you are no longer a companion with them in love” (Romans 14:15, The Message). Could it be that the solution to every relational conflict is in applying the gospel?

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