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A 2nd Breeding Ground of Stress- Usurping Control

Posted on February 16, 2017 Written by Bill Tell 3 Comments

Stress – what if it is not “out there” in the circumstances of life, but it’s “in here,” in me? If that is true, then the solution to my stress is not trying to control or even change what are often unchangeable circumstances.  Control freaks are seldom relaxed. Probably never. There is always one more thing that will need to be controlled in order to feel in charge and safe.

When I feel stressed out by not being able to control the chaos I perceive around me, I find I have forgotten two things (and more):

  • It is not my job to control the circumstances of life that surround me. Should I act responsibly and wisely? Of course.  Should I be a good steward of the resources I have to do good in the midst of suffering and evil? Absolutely. Am I responsible for a changed outcome? Not so much. Actually, maybe not at all! Here are two verses I often go back to when I forget and feel the stress of ownership for outcomes.

“The horse is made ready for the day of battle, but the victory belongs to the Lord.” (Proverbs21:31). This helps me separate my part from God’s part. I get the horse ready. I do it well. Responsibly. But the outcome is not dependent on me, it belongs to the Lord.

“Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand” (Proverbs 19:21). This reminds me I have to hold my plans, my desired outcomes, in an open hand. No closed fists allowed.

  • I forget how close the Controller of all things is to me. Here are my go-to reminders that help de-stress me:

“The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything” (Philippians 4:5,6).

“The angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear him…” (Psalm 34:7).

“…for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me” (Psalm 23:4).

And then there are so many things I forget about the Master Controller. He is trustworthy. Gentle…He knows my limits. He is a source of stability…a rock I can stand on. He is my protector…my refuge.  When I am stressed, my list grows long.

YOUR TURN: What are you trying to control that is stressing you? What would it help you to remember? Are there things you need to let go of and trust the one who is trustworthy?

BE A FRIEND: You and I are surrounded by friends who are stressed out. Stressed out because they are looking for solutions to stress in all the wrong places…not aware that we are filled with inner breeding grounds where stress can rear it’s ugly head. Pass this blog along and help expose them or remind them of the One who is really in control – for our good. Lets spread the good news.

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Comments

  1. Sandy Carter says

    February 16, 2017 at 3:32 pm

    Bill, I really appreciated your post and the verses you included. Recently, we’ve been trying to kick off a Bible study with two young couples, but circumstances arose that prevented us from meeting. I began to ask, ‘what are we doing wrong? Did we miss the Lord’s leading?’ Your post helped me remember I’m not in control. We invite, we prepare, we pray, we persevere, but the Lord is in control. And that’s a very good thing!

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  2. Linda Llewelyn says

    February 17, 2017 at 10:16 am

    Rich and I really appreciate your posts and have referred to several of them in our ministry experiences, whether one to ones or with a group. I particularly appreciate this post as it applies to own life and others that I know. Especially like the Prov 21:31 verse – hadn’t thought of that one!

    Thank you for sharing your heart and wisdom!

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  3. Steve D says

    March 10, 2017 at 9:58 am

    Bill, thank you so much for this series on stress leading to a better understanding on how God helps us. I have shared it with a friend who is under great stress right now. It is also helping me.

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