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Hiding – Four Ways it Makes Us a Captive to Stress

Posted on March 27, 2017 Written by Bill Tell 2 Comments

How I Tried to Live

When I hide and fail to self-disclose what is true about me I have migrated from the breeding grounds of stress to a far more dangerous place. It’s a place of isolation, lies, and fear. It is a place where I descend into the exhaustion that pretending inevitably produces. I am unknown in the midst of friendly people.

I thought hiding would keep me safe. It didn’t. It lead me to unceasing anxiety, burnout and depression.

Why? Here are four truths I personally discovered.

  1. What I hide always remains unresolved. My hiding never solved anything. In my hiding I intentionally distanced myself from those who could bring healing truth to me.
  2. What I hide grows bigger. What I bury I bury alive. And in that buried darkness it grows. Failing to tell God and others the truth about me is sin and sin is not passive. It grows. It leads to more sin. This is why hidden addictions can’t be controlled.
  3. What I hide becomes more controlling. It has had a longer lifespan. It is more defining of me. Now it requires more vigilance and energy to keep it hidden…and that need controls me. All the time.
  4. What I hide increases my shame. What I hide may be hidden from you, but I see it. I know it is there. And it is unresolved, increasingly defining me, and requiring more of my attention. Finally, I feel like I have become what I am hiding.

So what do I do to break the downward spiral of hiding? Two very important things.

  1. Come into the open with God. I Him the truth about me. He longs for me to trust Him enough to do this. And as we do this, we make a life-changing discovery, He still loves us – just as we are, not as we should be (Brennan Manning).
  2. Come into the open with a friend...but a very special kind of friend. Come into the open with someone who when I tell them the worst there is to know about me, they will love me more, not less. A friend who will come closer and hold us tighter – and in that tight grip will walk with us into the light of God’s healing truth.

As followers of Jesus, lets walk in the light, not because we should, but because we now can.

Are there ACTIONS you need to take? With God and with a trusted friend? You will be surprised at the freedom you discover in the light. It is a freedom Jesus died for you to experience.

 

 

 

 

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  1. Sandy Carter says

    March 27, 2017 at 1:46 pm

    Bill, loved your four points! There’s so much to ponder, particularly in the line, “what I bury I bury alive.” Thanks so much for wrestling with these topics for us and challenging us to do the same.

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  2. Jack Ritsema says

    March 28, 2017 at 9:34 am

    Bill, reminds me of when I was small and hid from my mom when I’d broken something or did something she told me not to do! Thankfully, that didn’t last long as I either got hungry or she found me, and in both ways, I was punished — with love. And that’s what you describe here though in very adult (and frightening!) terms. Quite a revelation to humble ourselves to admit to God and to anyone else how sinful we really are! I did that a few times in my life and though the immediate results varied, I noticed that over time those were the places where the Lord touched me with His blessing and peace to open up new avenues of success in relating to others and of being a blessing to others. So thanks for laying this out so clearly and defining the 4 terrible dynamics of hiding from the consequences of how deep a sinner I really am.

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